Marriage is hard. Whether you’ve been married for 50 years, or only a week, you know full well how difficult it is to live out love with your husband. The love that sounds so perfect and beautiful in 1 Corinthians 13 proves to be one of the toughest daily challenges of your life. However, there is much comfort to be found in the fact that you are not alone. And marriage is still worth it.
To encourage you, sister, in your marriage today, the ladies among our staff offer their most helpful marriage tips.
MARRIAGE TIP #1: Don't Go to Bed Mad
Hannah (married 12 years), is our upbeat, quick-witted mid-days host at Life 90.5. When asked about her best marriage tip, her first response was, “Remember that ‘Thou shalt not kill’ is a commandment.”
So very wise, right?
However, she’s got a more practical piece of advice to offer. At every wedding she attends, she always shares a time-tested tip. Don’t go to bed mad.
If you go to bed mad, you’ll wake up mad. Every day is a new day and mercies are new every morning.
God’s word also backs up this piece of advice in Ephesians 4:26-27, “Do not let the sun go down while you are still angry, and do not give the devil a foothold.” Sister, the enemy is looking for ways to tear down your marriage and damage your relationship with your husband. Don’t do his job for him by holding onto your anger, however justified you think it might be.
MARRIAGE TIP #2: Pray for Your Husband
Life in the Morning co-host Mandy has been married for 5 years. While still early in her marriage, she’s discovered one of the most important marriage tips: pray for your husband.
Someone asked me the question once, “if you don’t pray for your husband, who will?” Hopefully others in his life pray for him, too, but no one is going to understand all the ways he needs prayer support like his wife does.
Just like we see our husband’s strengths, we also see all of his weaknesses. Those failures and shortcomings may often cause us frustration, but they also give us obvious opportunities to pray. Is your husband having a tough season at work? Pray for his boss, coworkers, clients, and his attitude. Is he struggling with doubt? Pray that God would “help his unbelief” (Mark 9:24). Is he stumbling in his parenting? Pray that God would surround him with other wise fathers who would show him how to be a godly dad.
Your prayers make a difference, sister. Thankfully, we can pray in faith, remembering that “the prayer of a righteous person is powerful and effective.” (James 5:16)
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MARRIAGE TIP #3: Choose Your Battles
Administrative assistant Melanie has been married the longest among our Life ladies, clocking almost 35 years with her husband. Her essential marriage tip? Choose your battles.
You’re going to be together forever. Decide if it’s worth losing everything because he squeezed the toothpaste wrong.
As two very different people try to do life together, there are going to be important things worth discussing, maybe even arguing about. But is it necessary to get upset over the direction the toilet paper comes off the roll? Moments of senseless conflict are the perfect times to remember that love isn’t self-seeking, nor does it keep a record of wrong. The little problems we encounter should be forgotten in light of 1 Corinthians 13:4-8.
Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails.
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WHAT ABOUT YOU?
What’s an important marriage tip that’s been helpful for you? Let us know in the comments!
Please note: These tips are ideal for women in typical, generally healthy marriage settings. If you’re experiencing abuse, we encourage you to connect with the Open Gate Domestic Violence Shelter by calling 910-343-0703, or contact a shelter in your area.
3 thoughts on “3 Helpful Marriage Tips for the Christian Wife”
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We help lead premarital mentoring at our church. We realize this article was geared towards women, and the tips are great, but we feel they apply equally to men. We talk about these and other tips to our couples. Proper communication(which takes a lot of practice and patience), and forgiveness go a long way in displaying love. Thanks for the article.
Hey Eric! Thanks for the input! They can definitely apply to men as well. Thanks for helping new couples start out strong in the Lord!
We’ve been married 40 years on April 10th. I am the husband but was curious to see what women think are important tips. I agree on all counts. Maybe add to this the importance of following scripture and submitting to your husband. That does not mean however women are subservient. No business can run with two bosses. Let the man make the hard decisions after you have thoroughly discussed things. Blessings to all the nice folks at 90.5, which I discovered while visiting Savage Surfboards in Wilmington.