Marriage is hard. Whether you’ve been married for 50 years, or only a week, you know full well how difficult it is to live out love with your husband. The love that sounds so perfect and beautiful in 1 Corinthians 13 proves to be one of the toughest daily challenges of your life. However, there is much comfort to be found in the fact that you are not alone. And marriage is still worth it.
To encourage you, sister, in your marriage today, the ladies among our staff offer their most helpful marriage tips.
MARRIAGE TIP #1: Don't Go to Bed Mad
Hannah (married 12 years), is our upbeat, quick-witted mid-days host at Life 90.5. When asked about her best marriage tip, her first response was, “Remember that ‘Thou shalt not kill’ is a commandment.”
So very wise, right?
However, she’s got a more practical piece of advice to offer. At every wedding she attends, she always shares a time-tested tip. Don’t go to bed mad.
God’s word also backs up this piece of advice in Ephesians 4:26-27, “Do not let the sun go down while you are still angry, and do not give the devil a foothold.” Sister, the enemy is looking for ways to tear down your marriage and damage your relationship with your husband. Don’t do his job for him by holding onto your anger, however justified you think it might be.
MARRIAGE TIP #2: Pray for Your Husband
Life in the Morning co-host Mandy has been married for 5 years. While still early in her marriage, she’s discovered one of the most important marriage tips: pray for your husband.
Just like we see our husband’s strengths, we also see all of his weaknesses. Those failures and shortcomings may often cause us frustration, but they also give us obvious opportunities to pray. Is your husband having a tough season at work? Pray for his boss, coworkers, clients, and his attitude. Is he struggling with doubt? Pray that God would “help his unbelief” (Mark 9:24). Is he stumbling in his parenting? Pray that God would surround him with other wise fathers who would show him how to be a godly dad.
Your prayers make a difference, sister. Thankfully, we can pray in faith, remembering that “the prayer of a righteous person is powerful and effective.” (James 5:16)
MARRIAGE TIP #3: Choose Your Battles
Administrative assistant Melanie has been married the longest among our Life ladies, clocking almost 35 years with her husband. Her essential marriage tip? Choose your battles.
As two very different people try to do life together, there are going to be important things worth discussing, maybe even arguing about. But is it necessary to get upset over the direction the toilet paper comes off the roll? Moments of senseless conflict are the perfect times to remember that love isn’t self-seeking, nor does it keep a record of wrong. The little problems we encounter should be forgotten in light of 1 Corinthians 13:4-8.
Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails.
WHAT ABOUT YOU?
What’s an important marriage tip that’s been helpful for you? Let us know in the comments!
Please note: These tips are ideal for women in typical, generally healthy marriage settings. If you’re experiencing abuse, we encourage you to connect with the Open Gate Domestic Violence Shelter by calling 910-343-0703, or contact a shelter in your area.